You get all kinds of happiness advice on the internet from people who don’t know what they’re talking about. Don’t trust them.
1) The Most Important Question To Ask When You Feel Down
Sometimes it doesn’t feel like your brain wants you to be happy. You may feel guilty or shameful. Why?
Believe it or not, guilt and shame activate the brain’s reward center.
Via The Upward Spiral:
Doesn’t matter. You don’t have to find anything. It’s the searching that counts.
2) Label Negative Feelings
To reduce arousal, you need to use just a few words to describe an emotion, and ideally use symbolic language, which means using indirect metaphors, metrics, and simplifications of your experience. This requires you to activate your prefrontal cortex, which reduces the arousal in the limbic system. Here’s the bottom line: describe an emotion in just a word or two, and it helps reduce the emotion.
3) Make That Decision
4) Touch People
· Ask “What am I grateful for?” No answers? Doesn’t matter. Just searching helps.
· Label those negative emotions. Give it a name and your brain isn’t so bothered by it.
· Decide. Go for “good enough” instead of “best decision ever made on Earth.”
· Hugs, hugs, hugs. Don’t text — touch.
So thank you for reading this.